Are You Chasing Elusive Happiness?

Is happiness an elusive butterfly for you? Spend some time in quiet reflection on this. The search for happiness is universal, and yet it can be so hard to find and hold. Perhaps you are just looking in the wrong places.

Are you neglecting one of the four important parts of who you are and experiencing a sense of emptiness within?

To discover acceptance, purpose and peace in all of these areas gives you a sense of completion in life. If you neglect any one of these areas, you experience a sense of emptiness and feel something is missing.

Without a solid foundation for building happiness within, you may try to fill this incompleteness by chasing outside solutions. That is the point when you can fall into the ‘elusive butterfly’ syndrome, and experience such frustration.

For many people happiness is an elusive butterfly in the garden of life. Imagine a young child in the garden on a summer day. The child sees a beautiful butterfly flitting from flower to flower. With eyes of wonder the child wants to see the butterfly close up, touch it, and hold it in his hands. The child goes towards the flower where the butterfly is resting, with arms outstretched, only to find as he gets within reach, the butterfly moves to another flower. Undeterred the child follows the butterfly to the next flower, and then the next, but the butterfly always stays just out of reach.

As you live and grow, your happiness can seem just like that butterfly, always just out of reach. It can become almost an obsession and the words “if only…” become an increasingly large part of your thoughts and vocabulary. You believe you would be happy if only you had more money, if only you were in a great relationship, if only you could have a different job … and the list goes on.

Even when you achieve one of your “if only” desires, the happiness you seek still seems just out of your reach. The truth of the saying “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence” becomes your belief and your perception. When this becomes your focus, you find that dissatisfaction and unhappiness increasingly keep growing in your life and experience.

The unhappiness within you can not be completely satisfied by external events or circumstances. To find happiness in life you must first be at peace with yourself internally. External events and circumstances can bring you happiness in the moment, but they do not have a lasting effect on your inner self. Life experience brings a mixture of good and bad circumstances to everyone. To rely on life’s experiences for your source of happiness would mean living life in a constant emotional roller coaster ride.

Happiness comes from within. The inner contentment that survives the roller coaster ride of life has its roots deep within your being. The source of happiness comes from finding and embracing who you are as a person, and living a life of purpose.

You need to find peace in every aspect of your life – the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

The more you discover, embrace and accept your uniqueness and purpose in all of these areas, the more you experience the butterfly of happiness alighting on your shoulder.

All good things,
John

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